Hi there. I’m Ciaran McKinney, Teen Innovations Manager at Aunua Academy. I’m also a crisis listener and a CFR which stands for community first responder. I’m here today to tell you about myself! How my mental health has inspired me and impacted me to make a difference to others. I was once in a very lonely and dark place. I finally learnt about ways of coping and turned my negative experience into a positive inspiring one! So this is how it all started! Back in Primary School in 2015, i was bullied. I was left with no hope. I was left angry, hopeless and left with nothing in life. I was lucky I had an amazing team behind me, parents, family members, doctors, nurses and therapists. My anxiety was as bad as ever, I didn’t go to school, I didn’t have much friends but my mam and dad, who were my only best friends at the time. I was left out, made fun of, ditched, pushed and left with no confidence. I just couldn’t take it all in at once… Long story short – 1st year came along, a year i was absolutely dreading. I had all type of thoughts rushing through me…what if I’m slagged?! What if I’m not good enough?! Am I smart?! What if people don’t like me?! The thoughts were actually non-ending. I took a breath, took day by day and slowly adjusted to this new chapter in my life. I’ve made forever lasting friends who love me for no matter who I am. My school have supported me, helped me through this time. I’m forever grateful. Now it got to 3rd year in 2018, when I knew I had to show people what I’m capable of. I started my own mental health organisation which had its own anonymous crisis chat monitored by support volunteers called Journey Of Hope. We wanted to make a change. I was sick to death of our mental health services failing many children and adults. Our anonymous chat line was quite popular, we had different types of people who reached out anonymously and told us everything that was going on in their mind. It was thoroughly enjoyable helping people. Everything was going well.
I’m also a community first responder CFR with St Johns Ambulance Raheny. My main role as a CFR is to deliver first aid care at duties! I love volunteering as you can tell!! 🙂 I also am a mentor with Rivervalley Localise, Localise is a free voluntary service which inspires young children to make a difference in their local community. We do many projects with the young children at Holy Family. We help the homeless, sing Christmas carols to the elderly and even make Christmas cards! We helped out and raised money for a mental health organisation called rainbows, we raised over €300 euro for volunteers training!! Wow. It inspired me to go on further. I was not done just yet!! I went ahead and applied for becoming a crisis listener at 7 Cups Of Tea. I deal with all sorts of people, no problem is too big or too small. I treat everyone with dignity, respect and always keep conversations confidential between myself and the texter. I deal with all type of issues: •Lgbtq+ issues *Grief issues *Managing emotions *Grief *PTSD *Domestic Abuse *Depression *Eating disorders *Loneliness *Bullying The list is endless, I really do enjoy my role. The opportunities keep coming! I finally got my job at my favourite place ever- the airport!! I’m working part time and still continuing with school. I also picked up my new role as Teen Innovations Manager with Aunua Academy recently. Many exciting times to come!!
I hope my performance makes an impact to people’s lives. I wish everyone does well, lives live to their fullest and try’s to enjoy every minute. It’s not always easy, and this is where I step in and make the difference. I’m hoping to go on and do my paramedic degree when I leave school and hopefully use my skills to help save even more lives. Thank you for listening to me today. I appreciate your time, never give up. You got this💕 ———————————————-- Instagram – imciaranmckinney Kind Regards,
Teens Talk #1 – A Personal Account of Surviving Christmas Jan 17, 2020
A personal account of surviving the break For many people Christmas can be such a joyful time, but it can also be an unexpectedly lonely time of year for all sorts of very valid reasons. For those who have been seeing a therapist, attending a group session or a day patient, taking a break from therapy over Christmas can be a welcome break or maybe it can make you feel more lonely. I’ve been attending therapy with Pieta House since September 2019. A week before Christmas, I was really struggling with my mental health. How do you react when you’ve just had a lonely breakdown on Sunday evening and your therapist announces that your weekly appointments will commence after Christmas and New Year’s? When it may be the only source of hope you are holding onto? The benefits of counselling Counselling is one of the most powerful weapons we have against a whole range of mental health issues like depression, ocd, borderline personality disorder, bipolar and etc. Having someone to talk to, who is there specifically to listen to you talk about your feelings, is an invaluable support to many people. It is something that I’m glad to finally come to terms with and not be ashamed to say that I attend counselling. For some people, therapy can feel like hard work. Painful feelings can emerge and talking about difficult situations can feel hard, triggering old memories. So the prospect of a break from weekly, or regular, therapy sessions can feel like a relief for some people. Perhaps being unable to meet with your therapist during the break can feel traumatic. Perhaps the relationship and regular meetings with your therapist have become an important part of your week. I know it is for me. You rely on your therapist for support. It may be the most significant relationship you have, and even if not, it helps you cope with difficult feelings or situations. A familiar sense of abandonment may surface. You may fear all sorts. You may not feel ready to go it alone. It may feel scary and overwhelming and you may wonder how you’ll cope without the structure of your regular weeklysession.
Learning from the break If you know about the break in advance, it can help to tune into your feelings and thoughts about it. If you do have feelings about the break, try not to pretend to yourself that it’s not happening, or that it doesn’t matter. Try to talk as honestly as possible with your therapist about it all. I think it definitely makes a difference. This way, the break itself (or more accurately, processing the break) can become a valuable part of your healing and growing in therapy. I think it’s also not uncommon for those attending therapy to feel like wanting to skip a session just before a therapy break. Your conscious reasons for missing your session (or wanting to) often seem sensible and grounded in practicalities. But skipping a session before a break may be linked to something deeper too. I know that I have had this thought process before As hard as it would be, I was encouraged to make every effort to attend all the sessions in the run-up to the therapy break, so I can know I am facing things head-on and doing the work, even if it’s uncomfortable. Opportunity to grow Having this break can perhaps be an opportunity to work on some of the things you have been exploring in therapy and it can also help you look beyond the relationship with your therapist, which may be necessary to do one day. In essence, the questions here are about how you can soothe yourself during this time, and how you take something from this break which can be useful for your therapy when you return in the new year. Maybe it’s looking at other tools and resources, such as helplines and relationships which can support you. Having some sort of backup plan can help ease into this temporary break.
Essentially, whether welcome or unwelcome, a break from therapy at this time of year can offer space to reflect on how the therapy is going and what might be useful and important to address in the next phase. While the Christmas break may feel like being left alone, it may give you the opportunity to work through issues such as disappointment, frustration, separation and abandonment. Comfort can be taken from the fact that the break is only temporary. Therapy can resume again in the new year and may feel even more helpful than it was before with the experience of this temporary break to draw on.
“A growth mindset that believes in one’s ability to cope and achieve – and commits to developing the recourses to do so.” – Derek O’Kelly on ‘positive mental health’. For week two of our Speaker Series, we spoke to Wellbeing & Performance coach Derek O’Kelly who describes himself as an ‘educational distiller’ and the world’s first ‘Mental Wellbeing Explorer’. Derek is the author of a “Quick Guide to Self-Care & Wellbeing” and founder of the Winning Minds Movement. He is also a director and award-winning educator at The Waverley Academy, where he has helped over 8,000 students develop careers and businesses through building their confidence and self-esteem. Q1 – Tell us a little bit about yourself and your background? “I am a qualified teacher, sports psychologist and mental wellbeing/performance coach – and have spent the past 20 years researching the areas of educational psychology, human potential, positive psychology, leadership, performance and personal empowerment. “I am passionate about coaching, speaking, writing, researching, social good, science communication and simplifying complicated information, so people and companies can realise their true potential.”
Q2- How did you get involved with Aunua Academy? “I met Karina at a seminar, where she explained the Aunua Academy concept and I said I would like to volunteer and assist.” Q3 – What does your role with Aunua Academy involve? “I have volunteered as a speaker/educator on the topics of wellbeing, self-care, stress management, resilience and mindset.” Q4 – What project/ventures (outside of Aunua Academy) are you currently working on? “I am currently finishing the edits for a print version of my book on self-care and wellbeing which is due for publication in first half of 2020. I am also working on an educational programme for parents and coaches for developing life skills through sports plus working with social enterprises and startups as a mentor/coach.” Q5 – What does ‘positive mental health’ mean to me? “As an educator, I think it is important to be mindful how and where we use the word ‘positive’ – particularly in the context of ‘positive mental health’. It is a term that I have become very mindful of as sometimes it can have the opposite effect to what we might like it to have. I prefer the term ‘mental wellbeing’.” Derek delivers talks, workshops and coaches companies, organisations and people towards improved wellbeing and performance.
“Want to hear a secret?… I cried in school today. (Eric if you’re reading this, put it down or I’ll kill you, I swear!!). The girls made fun of my shoes. Brigit took off one of them and they tossed it around outside in the playground like pass the parcel. I hopped around in the mud, half laughing, half desperate, trying to get it back but they were too quick.” – Erin Today, we have the pleasure of introducing you to the man behind our loveable mascot Erin’s story: Originally from Northern Ireland, Aidan J. Reid is an author, blogger, consultant, and science geek. When he’s not pitching to clients, you’ll find him in a cafe guzzling coffee and dreaming of writing a bestselling novel.
Tell us a little bit about yourself and your background. I’m the author of five books, and have over a decade of experience working in sales and marketing roles for a number of different tech companies. I’ve spent 3 of the last 5 years living the dream in Colombia but now reside in Dublin.
How did you get involved with Aunua Academy?
I met with Philip and later Karina in the summer of 2018 and offered to manage Aunua’s social media streams and postings from June 2018 until February 2019.
What does your role with Aunua Academy involve?
I wrote Erin’s Story (a short story about the Aunua mascot), and will be following up with Eric’s story (her little brother) in the coming weeks as well as any other relatives we want to shine a light on!
What project/ ventures (outside of Aunua Academy) are you currently working on? Where can we find out more?
I’m changing career and will be graduating as a full stack web developer in December and looking for roles aligned to web design/development ASAP. I also write fairly regularly and can be found at the temporary address of aidanjreid.com
What does positive mental health mean to you? Being comfortable in your own skin.
Expanding Our Reach Through Global Partnerships Oct 31, 2019
Initially set up as a school program for Ireland, it is exciting to see how Aunua Academy have recently expanded, to become a global online platform, bringing free educational supports for both parents and teachers, to more of the places where they are most needed. In line with this strategy, Aunua Academy have partnered with other global education providers, such as Belouga, Genius School, and The World Health Innovation Summit. Belouga is an online platform connecting classrooms around the world focused on creating cultural bridges through everyday communication and collaboration. It was founded in 2016 by Evin Schwartz and like Aunua, the platform is free for all teachers and students. They are active in over 82 countries and 2500 classrooms around the world and growing. Their mission aligns positively with that of Aunua Academy. Another great partnership for Aunua Academy is with The World Health Innovation Summit. The World Health Innovation Summit was set up in 2015 and is now engaged in over 20 countries worldwide. Its aim is to build financially self sustaining infrastructures, focused on health and wellness, around the world. Finally, Aunua has also formed a partnership with Roger James Hamilton’s Genius School. Genius School is based on the idea that education can be personalised for each child, to build on their strengths. It is about allowing childrens natural curiosity to shine and nurturing the genius in everyone. Last November, our CEO Karina won a scholarship to Bali, to become a founding member or Genius School, and the only representative in Ireland. Aunua Academy are excited about such great partnerships as there is a strong synergy with what we are trying to achieve, and they will allow us continue to enhance student wellbeing, and teacher strategies where they have the highest impact.
While many of us are aware that positive feedback is good for motivation, there can be a difference between the kinds of praise that are effective according to psychologist, Dr.Carol Dweck. Roughly 30 years ago, Dweck pioneered a theory called growth mindset, which has since become hugely popular. This theory essentially looks at students attitudes toward failure. Researchers found that while some students quickly pick themselves up, and look for ways to learn from their failure, others are more devastated, even by small setbacks. This is due to students attitudes toward learning and effort. If they believe that intelligence is fixed, then it will be harder to overcome such obstacles, but if they believe that with time and effort, they can get smarter, then this can make a big difference when it comes to achievement. As with student mindset, the same can also be true of teacher mindset. Researchers found that when a teacher ranks students abilities from low to high potential, and operates a fixed attitude in terms of how much control a student has to overcome this, this can impact negatively on the student. In terms of praise, there are two kinds. There is praise that focuses on how intelligent children are – “you are so smart”, and then there is praise that focuses on effort – “I really admire how hard you worked on that”. The praise focusing on effort cultivates a growth mindset whereas the praise focused on intelligence may create a negative result, since the student feels this is something you just are, or you are not, and they are more likely to hide when they get a negative result, than to seek ways to overcome it. The idea that intelligence can be developed, rather than being set it stone, is a hugely popular idea in education at the moment. As persistence is so important in much of what we do in life, it is no surprise that those praised for their efforts, do better in this regard, while those praised for intelligence are more likely to choose tasks that they think will allow them to continue to look intelligent. Further studies have since confirmed the results of the original research, with some studies having as much as 100,000 participants. Additional benefits of growth mindset are better self regulation and higher self esteem, among other mental health benefits. As a culture we should try to develop a positive stance toward receiving quality feedback, and this can be instilled at a young age. So, it is important to examine where you may have a fixed mindset and then try to improve on this gradually as a way to get started. By being more mindful of this idea, we can help students to become more resilient and to respond positively to criticism and failure.
Aunua Academy have recently created their very own animated mascot called Erin, who will help connect better with the hearts and minds of our student audience. Erin, will be brought to life in a series of online e-books, where she will share experiences, emotions, and thoughts, and we hope she will make the messaging even more relatable to children. The mascot was created by animator, Marc Corrigan, an artist and illustrator, based in Wicklow. Marc has received high praise for his animation work in the past, with it being described as hypnotic, innovative, unorthodox, and gorgeous. He currently teaches animation in secondary school. Erin was inspired by Karina’s daughter Sophia, based on initial sketches.
Why You Need Quiet Time and What to Do When Take It Oct 30, 2019
Have you ever turned off the TV and suddenly the house seemed so quiet that you became still as well?
When we are surrounded by noise, whether it’s from other people or our electronics, we don’t give ourselves the valuable time we need to be alone and quiet. Those two things, alone + quiet, can make a world of difference in your mental health. And you don’t have to take my word for it… Mindfulness and meditation studies show:
“Meditation and mindfulness skills led to improved sleep, greater relaxation…at the end of the six-week meditation course, worry, and thought suppression were significantly reduced.” (1)
It can lead to cardiac risk reduction. (2)
Reduces chronic physical pain. (3)
Lowers anxiety. (4)
But it’s not just about facts and figures, although those alone should have us rushing to practice meditation and mindfulness!
We Are Not Usually Taught How to Tune In As children we are often taught to be obedient. We scan the room and pay attention to other people’s emotional clues, making sure we do the right thing and don’t get into trouble. This, of course, develops the “others aware” mentality so we will grow up to be people dependent on the reactions and opinions of others. But, I’ve found that a more useful skill is relearning to listen to ourselves. When we shut down our own, inner voice in favor of other’s emotional cues, we are silencing ourselves. And we are learning to place more importance on what others think, than on our own experience. We are getting rid of self trust, self care, and self awareness when we don’t listen to the voice within.
One of the most important things you can do is get quiet. Learn to listen to that voice again, especially if you’ve been in situations where it was further suppressed—like in your family, job, or an unhealthy relationship. One of the most important things you can do is get quiet. Learn to listen to that voice again, especially if you’ve been in situations where it was further suppressed—like in your family, job, or an unhealthy relationship. Spending quiet time alone allows you to know who you are and what you need in any given moment so that you can be authentic. When you listen to your inner voice, and spend alone time, you can begin to know what you want, what you really want. It helps you contemplate decisions you need to make, without other voices influencing you. You can see how you really feel about a person in your life. Is that connection is healthy? Try a body scan and see how your health is and make mental notes to adjust your eating habits. When you get quiet, you give that inner voice time to speak up. When you hear what it has to say, it sets a standard for your behavior. You will know, the next time you’re talking to that person, that you don’t deserve to be treated badly. You will know, the next time you go to grab that fast food, that your body deserves better. And, not because I told you so, or because you read it in a book.Meditation and mindfulness changes things because you told you so.
Look, this really is the key to long-lasting change. You’ll stop acting from a program, habits, or other people’s expectations. It helps you set boundaries that don’t require you to look for other’s approval and other’s reassurance. Learning to listen to yourself allows you to act from what is right for you within a given moment. It’s the way we tap into our inner leader and take responsibility for our own lives. Quiet time every single day is essential to get to know ourselves and what our energy is asking of us and communicating to us each day.
How do you get to know yourself? Here’s a simple way to start:
Find a quiet place in your home.
Sit in a comfortable position. Sit on a soft surface like a couch or a chair with a pillow on it. Put both feet on the ground and relax your shoulders Close your eyes.
Put your hand over your heart for a few moments. When we do this, we can actually sync our brain waves with our heart beat. It is the best position to begin to in tune with ourselves.
Tune in. Afraid you don’t know how to tune in? Think about the one person, animal, place or thing that makes you smile right into your belly. Did you feel that shift? You’ve tuned in.
At first, the mind resists. You begin to notice how active the mind actually is. But if you stay with it, coming back to your heart and the space between the eyebrows, the noise will begin to fall away. Have compassionate patience with yourself and the process. The mind will rush around to different subjects, different to do lists. Tell it thank you, but you’ll talk about that later. And, understand that thoughts will come in. They are not your thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Thoughts happen. You can notice them, and then let them pass on through. After a period of quiet time, ask yourself what you are grateful for. Allow yourself to feel into the memory of a moment you enjoyed. You can ask yourself a question you’ve been wondering about: “What do I need to see most, right now?” “How can I take care of myself today?” “What should the next step on my health journey be?” “How can I experience a moment of beauty today?” “What is one negative pattern I need to be aware that I do?” “Where are my healthy boundaries? Am I honoring them, especially in my relationships?” Would you like a little help? So, sometimes a guided relaxation can help. You can use this link: https://drgloriane.com/shift-in-5-now/ to download a free Shift in 5 meditation. It is short but very effective, and you will feel better as the words soothe your mind and spirit. Love! Gloriane
Taking place on October 24th The Good Summit celebrates the Art of Possible by inviting connections and nurturing networks that motivate us toward a better shared today. Focusing on the streams of Good Society, Good Health, Good Work and Good Leadership, the event provides a time for sharing and learning, striving and trying. This event was created by Aunua Academy partner The World Health Innovation Summit.Taking place in the iconic Trinity College Dublin, this event will bring you a space for dialogue that motivates those who feel disengaged and disenchanted with how the world works, offering a platform for solidarity, with new ideas and empowerment.
There are amazing speakers organised for the day such as Lucie Cunningham, Founder of The Home Share, Niall Breslin, Co-Founder and Creative Director for A Lust For Life, Chris Gordon, CEO of The Irish Social Enterprise Network, Bertie Aherne, Former Taoiseach and many more. Aunua Academy Founder & CEO Karina Murray will be on The Advocacy Panel speaking and answering questions telling everyone about the incredible work and plans of the Aunua Academy. This is an exciting event not only for Aunua Academy but for everyone to hear these wonderful speakers and learn from all of their incredible achievements. We hope you will join us on the day whether to learn, network or for a great event, The Good Summit October 24th. Find out more about The Good Summit at https://www.thegoodsummit.com/
Hello my name is Tracey McCann. I feel privileged to be involved in the Aunua Academy. So, what will I be writing about today? Before I answer that question, I feel that it is important for me to give you a brief description of myself and my situation. I am a Bestselling Author, Life Coach, Disabled Advocate and Public Speaker. Take note of the last part of what I just wrote…it is important. I am a strong minded and driven young woman. I have gone through many ups and downs in my life. I am however, happy where my journey has now lead me. I love helping people of different levels and ages. My story is this, at the age of 8 I obtained a rare genetic condition known as rapid on-set muscular Dystonia. This just came on me suddenly and without any real indications in the build up. I was on a school trip running around playing with my friends, and next of all I found myself in a daze and unable to walk. No matter how hard I kept trying to stand, I fell. I was so frustrated and confused. All in all, within a few days I was so tight; my body had twisted, and my arms were wrapped around my neck. Also, much to my horror, my ability to speak had faded out. I could not do anything for myself. Over the following years I felt like an overgrown baby, having to be washed, dressed and fed. It was hard to readjust and I was understandably in shock for many years. But no matter how hard it was, feeling trapped inside my head, I always had this inner belief something good will come about. I believed my life would change for the better. I would not always be so dependent, and I would overcome it. Thanks to good support from my wonderful family and a lot of hard work and dedication, I retrained my body to get to where I am today. I have travelled all over the world visiting 20+ countries so far in my life. While I will admit that I have achieved all of this with the assistance of my family and friends, I also must give credit to the strongest asset that I possess, my motivation to not concede to peoples definitions of what I can or cannot do, motivation greater than limitation. This is the subject that I will be talking about today. In my honest view, and from my own firsthand experience, motivation is extremely important when achieving our goals. How many of you have heard of or know of Napoleon Hill? He wrote in Think and Grow Rich that “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it will achieve” While I am not disputing this, as it is not my place to, I do feel it is missing one key thing, which is action. Action has always been required in order to achieve anything that has ever been achieved. If we sit around just conceiving and believing in a dream, this does not guarantee results. A result, be it positive or negative, is only achieved by taking necessary action. How many of you have, or know people who have gone to an event and felt so pushed in succeeding at a dream after that event? We feel motivated right? Now ask yourself, how many of those dreams have you actually achieved or are in the process of achieving? Maybe most of you are in the process of achieving your dreams but I am going to go on the assumption that some of you can relate to my next question. How many of you have felt really pumped after an event, and then when you leave, the real world pulls you back and dampens your enthusiasm? Why is this? This is because, for the high majority of us, we care what other people think, that is the first reason. The second reason is that when we are listening to people saying we cannot do this and we cannot do that, and that we are crazy. We are subconsciously taking on board all those pessimistic views and then, in turn, shaping our own self-limiting beliefs. For example, I cannot do this because such and such tried it and failed. What we all need to do is keep ourselves focused on our dreams. We achieve this by firstly surrounding ourselves with optimistic and supportive people who will not trample on our dreams, before we even get started. We also need to fill our own minds with supportive thoughts, not self-destructive ones. We achieve this by listening to uplifting speeches, working towards achieving our goals and repeating to ourselves daily affirmations, and also reminding ourselves daily that we are all amazing, and we all are self-empowered. This is not, as much as it may be viewed by others, us being cocky and egotistical, and if it is, it is better than being meek and submissive to the concepts of others. We all possess the strength within us to see our goals achieved; belief is not required for that, as it is a fact. Throughout the history of man we have constantly achieved whatever we have conceived. We have achieved these things through taking unwavering, persistent and determined action. I am here writing this post to you all now, as someone who had every reason to roll over and concede, telling you, that you can achieve whatever you want to achieve, by just taking the correct motivated action. Years ago I wanted to tell my story, and share my message with the world, and now here I am as a Bestselling Author, Life Coach and Public Speaker, and I cannot talk. You can do anything you want, do not allow anyone, not even yourself, tell you otherwise. Each day, repeat this affirmation to yourself, I believe in myself. Telling yourself this, and believing this, is more than half the battle, I should know.
Learning For Our Children’s Sake by Pauline Rohdich Oct 26, 2019
We know our children mimic what they see and hear. If you want evidence of that, perhaps you could look at your own upbringing and see the traits and behaviours you now emulate from the people who were around you. Our life is often, a reflection of what we have been exposed to from our parents to our teachers, mentors etc. They have all left their mark on us, as it were, both good and bad. Some of us were lucky enough, to have someone in our life offering encouragement and guidance, helping us to believe in ourselves and realize our dreams. Sadly, many of us are often metaphorically speaking, flipping through the troubleshooting pages of the book of life in an attempt to fix ourselves and resolve our issues and fears, to discover why life is not working out the way we wanted it to.I must invite you to #justpause right here.
Life is not working out for us because of the stories we are telling ourselves. Yes, you may want that promotion but in your mind, you might be saying things like, “I’m not really good enough to do the job,” or, “what if I can’t deliver?” You might want to meet a partner but you’re thinking, “I’m too old to meet someone,” or “This is a waste of time.” You may want to start your own business but you’re thinking “I can’t really afford it and I’m scared to lose my investment.” Or, you might get praise for what you do at work but deep down you feel like a fraud and believe you don’t deserve to be acknowledged. So, you see, with some troubleshooting you will discover your life is not working out because you keep cancelling the possibilities the more you doubt yourself and feel that what you want is not available to you.
Because so many of us adults are only beginning to understand the power of our mind and the effects of our thoughts, it is understandable why our children doubt themselves and consequently suffer from anxiety and depression. I’d like to share with you that the mind is not as complicated as we may have been led to believe. Having trained with Marisa Peer, the UK’s number one therapist, in London last year as a Rapid Transformational Hypnotherapist, I learned the rules of the mind and how to harness them. Here they are –
Your mind does what it thinks you want it to do.
Your mind responds to words and pictures.
Your mind will always do what is familiar.
We are living with results in our lives today based on the choices we have made in the past. If the results we are experiencing are not pleasing us, the good news is that, we can change them by changing our mind. The secret lies in how we communicate with ourselves and telling our mind what we actually want and believing we can have it. We must use positive words and repeat them often. Instead of telling ourselves, we’re not good enough to go for that promotion, we must say “I want this job, I’m good enough to do this job and I’m choosing to go for it because I deserve it.” Your mind will respond to this and you will approach the situation with more confidence and certainty. Each word you are saying is creating a corresponding image and now you can see yourself doing the interview and being successful. You must make being confident and feeling deserving familiar and the fear of failure unfamiliar.
For example, to relate this to children, perhaps, your child might want to do trials in their chosen sport, in order to be selected for the team, but they are thinking that they are not good enough and the words they are saying silently are – “I’m not going to get picked, the manager doesn’t like me.” This creates a picture in the child’s mind and can give rise to anxiety. We must share the rules of the mind with every child, so that they can set themselves up for success in whatever area of their life they choose. This works for doing exams, studying, homework, hobbies and interests. It can be used to help with focus, concentration and motivation. It’s vital to begin by praising yourself. It is not arrogant or conceited to do so, contrary to what you may have been told in the past. In fact scientists are encouraging us to praise ourselves, as the opposite behavior is self-criticism, which can lead to depression. Saying things such as, I love myself or I am learning to love myself are so important in changing our brain chemistry and over time it becomes true. It takes 21 days to create a new habit and habits are formed by repetition, so telling yourself over and over again, positive statements of truth will have a very affirming effect on our psyche. The greatest three words we can say to ourselves and teach our children are “I am enough!” Encourage your children by posting these words on post it stickers around the house, you can write it on mirrors with special markers or lipstick or eyeliner. The more visible it is, the quicker it will become engrained in our brains. When children are being bullied, they feel they are different and not enough. Encouraging them to say these words over and over will help them overcome their lack of confidence and raise their self-esteem. Interestingly, the children who bully also feel that they are not enough which is why they seek power from their negative behavior. We can let our children know that bullies are often hurt themselves and don’t believe in themselves very much. For more information on how Rapid Transformational Hypnotherapy can help you to improve your self-esteem and confidence, please email me at pauline @justpause.ie or call me on 083 034 4121.